CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST
IN KEMPTON PARK

Couple Counseling

Are you

• struggling in your marriage or long term relationship?
• concerned that your relationship may not make it over the long term?
• tired of arguing, bickering or worse – the silent treatment?
• sick of the same old arguments that repeats itself over and over again??
• experiencing anger, resentment and dissatisfaction that have you thinking to yourself: “Is this really worth it?”
• feeling that the criticism, blaming and apathy have reached a point where you need it to stop?
• attempting to fix your relationship problems but it just don’t seem to be working?
• at a place where you feel that there still love between you, but it just doesn’t seem like it will be enough to make positive change?
• If you are experiencing any of the following right now, it is important for you to realize that change is possible!
• Communications problems: Little or no real dialogue.
• Problems with intimacy: The closeness seems gone
• Feeling like roommates: It doesn’t feel like a relationship
• Emotionally unavailable partner: Closeness seems gone.
• Sexless or unfufilling sex: Dispassionate & infrequent
• Problems being together: It feels difficult to enjoy being with one another.
• Feeling rejected: Your partner doesn’t pay enough attention to you.

As a couples counselor I am committed to helping couples find productive ways to move past the hurts, to heal the wounds and to create a great relationship.

Couples and Marriage Counseling Benefits

The couples and marriage counseling I do is designed to address all of the issues above and many, many more. Here is a quick review of just some of the areas we can tackle together in couples therapy:

• Finding new ways to avoid communications shut downs (aka shutting down).
• Preventing arguments from turning into full-blown, nasty fights.
• Learning new ways to make points during communications that do not “hit buttons”.
• Exploring ways to bring back sex into relationships that seem barren.
• Ending the cycle of emotional neediness.
• Stopping that terrible place of feeling like “we are just roommates”.
• Identifying and changing bad money habits that impact the both of you.
• Avoiding some of the top reasons for couples to break up.
• Identifying ways of bringing fun and relaxation back into the relationship.
• Dispelling common marriage myths.
• Work through intimacy fears in relationships.
• Move past infidelity, cheating and affairs.

My styl of marriage or relationship counseling

I was trained in EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) by ICEEFT (International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy) and continue with ongoing training under supervision with this institution. My work includes couples in a same-sex relationship.

Emotionally focused couple therapy is a relatively short-term, systematic intervention.

EFT is one of the most researched, delineated and empirically-validated approaches in the field of couples therapy. The significant role of emotional communication in the development of relationship distress is acknowledged in this approach. Rather than a focus on resolving content issues, EFT structures small steps to create safe emotional engagement so that partners can move from relational distress to a more secure bond between them.